I saw Wendell Comperry face to face a week ago last Friday and just before that we exchanged emails. I was brought up short by the fact that the way I use the word “expectations” may be quite different from the way other people use it. Still I hope what I said above makes sense to the readers of your blog.

I think that what Wendell was saying at least included the idea that when one says that one has no expectations that that in and of itself is an expection.

Robert

My own computer won’t play this video but I finally saw it this past weekend. It certainly demonstrates how our expectations are shaped by what we are exposed to.

This made me think about the connection between expectations and fantasy. Perhaps they are two ends of the same dimension, expectations being more concerned with external influences and fantasy with internal ones.

I am not a person who fantasizes much. I think that that makes it easier for me to satisfied when interacting with others. When the other person has lots of fantasies it is difficult, and sometimes impossible, to deal with them.

Watching the Barbie-Ken video reminded me of your own “Barely Legal” and I went back and watched it again for the tenth or eleventh time. I love it. I guess that if I were going to make myself have a fantasy, seeing you do it in person who be a nice expecation!

Robert